|—||Rachel Maddow (via edenfenix)|
Orange is the New Black + sexuality
I have scars all over my body. Some I know exactly where they came from: a hot glue gun, a dog bite, hockey gloves, surgery, countless falls from a bike. But I have a scar on my hand, right near the base of the palm and I have no earthly idea where it came from. There are wounds that we don’t even know we have. We’ve had them so long that our bodies have grown over them, around them, enveloped them like a tree that grows around a rock. We don’t think of them until the damage becomes apparent. Stef thinks of her dad causing wounds by sending her to a priest. We’ve know about that one. But she doesn’t even realize damage caused by years of being ridiculed and thought less of until she starts parroting his language to the woman she loves. These wounds stay with us. Sometimes we don’t realize how present they are until we’re driving down the road, telling a story about our past and find tears running down our cheeks.
Everything about Stef’s posture in this scene screams kid. She slouches, she shoves her hands in her pockets, she’s entirely devoid of the chest out, head high, swagger we see when she’s in uniform. With her dad, she’s a kid. She’s a kid who has to tell her dad that he’s not welcome at her wedding because he hurt her so badly that it left more than a scar. It left a place that hurts so much that she had to cover it with her smartass mouth.
Take it from someone who knows, being a smartass to cover your hurt is a great way to cope in middle school. It might even get you through high school, and if you’re good you can stretch it into college. But someday you are going to meet someone and your usual bullshit isn’t going to work. She’s going to look at you and when you shoot your mouth off, when you say nasty things, or tell a harsh joke to cover the fact that you care so much it makes it hard to breath, she’s going to see past the bluster, she’s going to see the hurt. If you’re lucky she’s going to see that nasty broken place and love you anyway. But that doesn’t mean you get to sit in your bedroom and tell her that marrying her is stupid and get away with it. She loves you, she might even want to spend the rest of her life with your sorry ass, but that doesn’t mean she’ll tolerate you falling back into your old habits. Not with her. She knows where you hurt, she sees your broken places and she, through some miracle of the universe, loves you anyway. That’s a thing that makes it worth standing in your father’s kitchen and telling him he’s not welcome at your wedding. Because she might love you, broken places and all, but that doesn’t mean you have to allow the person who broke you once to come near the places she stitched back together.
“I‘m making my peace with it…”
"If I’m going to marry you, I’m going to marry all of you. The scar. The bullet. And the cop."
Sometimes I’m sad for what this show could be if the target audience was women ages 18 - 34. Sometimes I’m amazed at what they manage to pull off given the expect construct of a teen show.
Moms are always making it better - parenting 101 (The Fosters 01x10)
And also this one…
It’s just Teri Polo, breaking our hearts…. (The Fosters 01x10)
Right in the gut…
Preach, preach, PREACH.
"Who IS Felix sleeping with? I wanna know."